“A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises.”
-Proverbs 31:10-31 The Message
There is so much we can learn from the woman in Proverbs 31:10-31. She has been taught on from many different angles and perspectives. Jewish tradition holds that Bathsheba was responsible the passage in Proverbs 31, sharing her wisdom with her son Solomon. We have all heard teaching on her life from the viewpoint of what we “should” do. I want us to look at her from the perspective of what we “can” do, and what our children need to see us doing.
I am a stay-at-home mom who homeschools. I do not work outside the home. I really love this about my life. I don’t want to work outside the home, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have other passions besides family and home. I like to talk about Biblical things, share my knowledge on education, and various other things. Since I am at home with my kids, the best venue for this is for me to write.
I started my blog in 2010. I enjoy it because it provides a way for me to express myself and use my education, but oh the guilt!!! I struggle constantly with guilt about my entire focus not being on my family. And it is not just with the writing. I often struggle if I leave the house. I struggle with doing many things for myself if it takes me away from my children. But that’s just not healthy.
Recently, I believe God started dealing with me about this. When God created me, He gave me skills and talents and abilities. When I became a Believer, and started following Jesus, He put things in my heart that He wanted me to do. To ignore this would be wrong and would be burying my talents. But there is another reason, I need to be doing these things. My children need to see me.
There is a whole list of activities that the woman in Proverbs 31 does. Many of them are related to home and family, but it seems that many of the things she does she enjoys. She is a happy woman because she is getting to do things she loves and bring her joy. And she is motivated by her love for God, and her children see her.
She gets to work. She gets to make money. She gets to create. She gets to wear nice clothing. She gets to give to those in need.
What else does she get?
She gets praises from her husband and her children. She receives blessings from them. They see what she is doing.
Our children need to see what we are doing. Our children need to see us taking care of ourselves. One of the best things we can do for our children is to be healthy adults. We need to be healthy emotionally, full of joy in what we do. We need to be healthy physically ready to take on the world we live in. We need to be healthy spiritually, loving God and fulfilling His plans for our lives. Our children need to see us getting to live out our God-given passions
The most poignant part of this passage is found Proverbs 31:30 that says,
“The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.”
This part of the passage denotes the guiding factor in everything she did and what we do as well. He is the source.
Everything we get to do, in order to cause blessings and receive praise, is to be motivated from a love for Jesus. We do because He made us to do, and we love Him, because He first loved us. That’s what our children need to see.
Beth is a homeschool mom of four who currently makes her home in Colorado. She loves spending time with her family, being outdoors, and has recently started running again! She is passionate about following Jesus and encouraging other women to be everything God created them to be. To read more by Beth, you can find her at her blog, http://www.bethlisteningtohim.blogspot.com.